FLIRTING – how to conquer your crush

When you meet a nice boy or a girl at a festival, during shopping or at another random place and your heart awfully starts pounding. THUMP-THUMP-THUMP. You start to blush, look sweaty around you and just don’t know what to do anymore. Don’t stutter, because that is not that S.E.X.Y. or if you start with a bad cleft sentence, like: Do you have a map for me, otherwise I’ll get lost in your eyes. STOP PLEASE! FORGET ABOUT THAT AND TRY TO BE ORIGINAL!
Do you want to be a PRO flirter hook your crush up? Go read about the tips and tricks that I’ve collected for you.


Grow some balls and walk towards the person! What do you have to lose? Don’t you have the guts yet, but you do want to be sure if that person also likes you? Then first try to make eye contact. If that person looks back, then you already have done the first move, WOOHOO, but you aren’t there yet! Smile a bit to your crush. Not too exaggerated, but just slightly subtle. You can do it now! You’ve received your first signal, so go for it!

Tease your crush

Have a chat with your crush, please do not try to be too superficial by impressing with your impressive ALBERT EINSTEIN knowledge. Just don’t! Try to create the feeling, as if you’re standing upon your friend. That gives you a safe haven, so you can be yourself more. Smile sometimes during talking and try to tease him or her in a playful way 😉 Don’t forget in the back of your mind that you’re unconsciously reflecting. Don’t do this by force or overdone, because it can namely turn out differently. If your crush goes along with it, then you go a step further! GO GO GO!

Feel the click and become one with your crush

You’re almost there. Try to listen to your cursh, during a conversation. Don’t constantly have your say, because that can be so boring at one point. One golden rule: Try to ask as many questions as you want if you answer. You want to hold on a conversation and want to know if your crush has something interesting to tell. Be honest, you don’t want to hook up a bimbo.

Give compliments

This is an easy task. Give your crush the flirty eyes and give him or her compliments, like: You look good! What’s your workout routine? It does feel a bit cliché, I know, but nowadays you can’t get away with it. Lately, it’s the topic in the Netherlands. I mean, there are Basic-Fits everywhere, like in commercials, social media and whatnot. Of course you can also use other compliments. The advantage of this is that you seriously with flattery gets you far and what I mean by that is reaaaaaal far.

Touch your crush subtly

After all that talking, you would also like to touch your crush gently. Let’s see if your crush is also interested in you. You do this when you have received enough signs like what you’ve read before. Be careful, because not everyone likes this, especially someone who’s physically aggressive. You don’t want to appear as a horny dog, right? Touch his arm or hand gently if you laugh about his jokes. This way you let your crush know that you’re also interested in him or her. Thus, don’t  assault your crush immediately.

The most important thing that I want to give you is: Be confident. Don’t respond to much. Enjoy yourself. Listen carefully. Be calm and don’t underestimate the power of the eye contact 😉


Happy Valentine <3


Sandra Espina



  1. 02/13/2017 / 10:28 AM

    Oh, I wish I had read this one 8 years ago when I met my husband haha 😀 Although, I might’ve done something right since we’re married now 😀 I’m so bad at flirting 😀

    ♥ Jasmin N
    // Little Things With Jassy
    // BL’

    • Essere Moda
      02/27/2017 / 9:48 AM

      haha well then you did already a great job. You are married for 8 years, so amazing <3

  2. 02/13/2017 / 6:02 PM

    Such a lovely post babe!

    Have a great night and a great valentine tomorrow!

    With Love Arielle

    • Essere Moda
      02/27/2017 / 9:48 AM

      Thanks babe. I hope you had a lovely Valentine’s Day <3

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